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Budgeting for the Wedding: 10 Hidden Wedding Costs

It's all those pricey extras that slide in under the radar. We've asked the experts to clue us in on their insider secrets for avoiding those little-known financial pitfalls and sticking to your wedding budget.

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1. Wedding Band Equipment

Why it's hidden The cost of the wedding band includes fees for the musicians' time and the minimum amount of equipment needed. If your reception space is extra-large, then additional speakers and microphones could possibly be required to project the best sound quality.
The cost Anywhere from several hundred to several thousand dollars
How to avoid it Before booking your wedding band or DJ, you need to clearly explain the layout of the space (or have them check it out, if they're willing) so the vendors know exactly what they're working with. If they want to add in extra equipment, you should have them explain why it's necessary before you sign a contract or agree to pay for anything else.

2. Postage Stamps

Why it's hidden Stationers don't advertise the shipping costs; if they did, you might decide to go with simpler (read: cheaper) invites.
The cost Oversized, awkwardly shaped and bulky invitations will most often run you as much as $2 each to mail.
How to avoid it Skip the fancy boxed invitations and multilayer cards, which can bulk up quickly and cost a lot more than you bargained for.

3. Wedding Dress Alterations

Why it's hidden Wedding dresses are pretty pricey and stores don't want to scare away clients by listing alterations as part of the total cost.
The cost A simple hem can be less than $100, but completely rebuilding a bodice or moving zippers can send the price soaring. 
How to avoid it Ask about what the store charges for every alteration you may need before you purchase the gown.
If it's too much, don't be afraid to take your dress to a less expensive seamstress to have alterations done.
 

4. Photo/Video Overtime

Why it's hidden Your wedding photographer and videographer are booked for just a certain amount of time, so if your wedding runs a little longer than you expected, they'll charge per hour.
The cost Starting at $250 per hour
How to avoid it When planning the day, factor in extra time for getting dressed and taking photos. You'll get a realistic sense of how long everything should take. Refer to this itinerary when booking your photo/video vendors.

5. Welcome-Bag Delivery

Why it's hidden Most hotels don't factor in a welcome-bag delivery fee when you block rooms. And they may fail to mention the rate unless you ask -- they'll just add it to your final bill. Inquire within; they may even charge you a fee for holding the welcome bags if you drop them off before the guests arrive!
The cost Up to $7 per bag
How to avoid it During the booking process, ask about the hotel's policy on receiving and delivering welcome bags to guests' rooms. It may be free or cheaper if they hand the bags out at the counter as guests check in. If you don't want the extra charge, you can distribute them at the rehearsal dinner.

6. Rental Transport

Why it's hidden You'd assume that the rental companies would include these extra fees in the per-item costs (do they honestly think you're going to fit 150 chiavari chairs in your own car?), but surprisingly, they don't.
The cost From $50 up to more than $500
How to avoid it Ask the rental company what their shipping and packaging fees are up front -- if the cost is too high for your budget, shop around a bit. You just might find that you'll actually save some money by renting items from a more expensive company that includes delivery costs at no extra charge.

7. Taxes

Why it's hidden Even though these aren't exactly hidden -- we all know that there are taxes on almost everything -- most couples don't think about how much they'll end up owing during the planning process.
The cost This will depend on the total amount of money you're spending as well as the location of the event (taxes vary in different areas).
How to avoid it There's no getting around paying taxes, but paying the entire bill in one lump sum can help lower the overall price, especially in the winter when vendors have fewer weddings to cover their bills. 
 

8. Cake-Cutting Fee

Why it's hidden If you use the cake provided by your reception site, the charge is typically wrapped into the cost. Going with an outside baker can jack up the price. Why? Because your venue's workers are responsible for slicing and serving each piece, then cleaning the dishes. This means more work for their staff!
The cost From $2 to $5 per guest
How to avoid it Go with the site's cake baker. Don't worry: They'll likely be able to work with your vision. If you're set on a particular cake baker, then call your venue and find out what the fee is before you sign a contract.

9. Coat Check

Why it's hidden When you book your venue in the summer, it's easy to forget just how cold it'll be in winter months like December.
The cost The damage starts at around $200.
How to avoid it Union rules may dictate the number of people who are required to work the coat check (and the amount they get paid). Have a good approximation of your total guest count when you book the coat checkers.

10. Gratuities

Why it's hidden Many couples often think that the "service charge" is a tip for the event staff when it's actually an additional fee that the catering halls charge. For what? To cover their own cost for hiring servers.
The cost Typically 15 to 20 percent of the event's total food and drink fee
How to avoid it Once you get the proposed fee, add the service charge percentage so it's already accounted for before the event. The last thing you want is to get hit with an unexpectedly huge bill that just about breaks the bank.


from the community

we're spending 5 days in south beach and where thinking of doing welcome bags instead of the favours at the reception, especially as most people will be going out to a club afterwards ... is this considered not ok? we're also doing a smaller cake and in addition my FIs mom is making a rum cake (part of his family's tradition) and i'm having it packaged so each person can take it to go as others mentioned here a lot of people don't eat the cake at the reception

I never really understood the "need" for welcome bags I dont provide them when I have out of town guest any other time theyre nice but like wraith said there favors at the reception

We skipped the cake entirely, picnic theme in August, going with pie instead

If you choose to have cupcakes, there is no charge for anyone to cut your cake! I was already planning on cupcakes and the fact that we could be charged to have someone cut the cake makes an even easier decision.

do we really need to have a welcome bags? i think it would cost way too much and plus thats why theres favors at our wedding reception lol

My Matron of Honor, one of my BM and I are making my cake...it's a simple design and we're all pastry chefs!

we will have a small cake for the cake cutting, and many different flavored and decorated cupcakes that we will make ourselves.

We have a friend who is an amateur cake baker but she is incredible at what she does. She has agreed to give us a 3 tiered cake for $50. Lucky us! That will be served to our bridal party and parents, then we are going to buy a standard sheet cake for everyone else.

For our cake, our baker is making the bottom layer of our cake fake; out of stryofoam or cardboard and decorating it like normal. Then the top 3 layers are what we are serving. It allows you to have a large multi-tiered cake w/o the cost.

We are ordering a small wedding cake for us and our bridal party- then we plan on smaller cakes at each table for the guests.

I read somewhere that many couples are opting for a 2 tier cake and also have a cheap sheet cake hidden in the back as well.... I also like that idea

I like the idea of having a wedding cake I am not big on cupcakes.

Fake cake layers are a new way to save money. You can have a much larger cake yet only 2 layers are real cake. Instead of serving cake, do a desert bar which is less expensive and very yummy!

My aunt is making us a small cake for cutting and we are having cupcakes as favors in cupcake boxes so guests can take them as they leave the wedding and enjoy them later :)

My friend got married last weekend... had cupcakes for gests and a small cake for her and her husband to cut. It was the most adorable thing ever! Plus.. no one ever eats most of the cake, so it's cheaper this way!

We are also having a small cake for pictures and cake cutting. We are doing cup cakes for everybody else instead of cake. The weddings I've been to it seems like nobody really eats the cake anyway.

HAHA Aubray! I love it! I'm thinking the same thing about right now. =/

One of the ways I am saving is by having a smaller "pretty" cake for pictures and our cake cutting and then I negotiated a "free" groom's cake and sheet cakes from the venue to have enough cake for everyone since their catering price already included a dessert in the price. Our wedding cake is only costing $50.00, and that includes the fresh flowers for the topper :)

It's definitely understandable that you're frustrated with service charges but it is one of those frustrating "wedding details" that you can't just get angry about and ignore a tip. Talk to your venue before you chose to punish the staff.

One thing i notice that buffett is much cheaper that sit down especially if your having a summer wedding. Find a shop where the alterations is free when the gowns are purchased. Try to save by doing invites yourself, try to get a family memeber to pay for postage..thanks dad. It will save you $60 - $100 on stamps. Shop around for shoe sales because the dresses are mostly long the shoes doesn't have be too fancy.

One thing i notice that buffett is much cheaper that sit down especially if your having a summer wedding. Find a shop where the alterations is free when the gowns are purchased. Try to save by doinf invites yourself, try to get a family memeber to pay for postage..thanks dad. It will save you $60 - $100 on stamps. Shop around for shoe sales because the dresses are mostly long the shoes doesn't have be too fancy.

One thing I have noticed while doing research is that once you add "wedding" or "bridal" to it, the price automatically jacks up. A typical updo at a hair salon can cost you $40, but once it becomes a bridal updo, its upwards of $90! A prom dress or even a bridesmaid dress can run around $100, but a wedding dress gets insane just because it is white and is used for your ceremony. Catering...if you look up a catering menu for a company, regular catering is one price, but once you click on the wedding reception link, it becomes more expensive. Sometimes I wish you could just call your wedding a party so you get standard rates on everything.

Definitely do your homework before signing any contracts! I found that once vendors relalized that I was willing to walk away from their venue, they were much more willing to work with me. I also was able to negotiate a much lower price when I was able to present a spread sheet with comparable locations and their costs. For reception locations, make sure you pay attention to the "little" costs that add up quickly (i.e. linen fees, glass fees, cake cutting fees, gratuity, site fees, etc.). Make sure these fees are clearly spelled out in the contract! Also beware of locations that require you to use their own security guards! These can cost you upwards of $100/hr per guard and some locations require one guard per every 10 guests! If your venue requires you to have security, check into a private detail.

My reception venue is charging an 18% service charge. Which comes out to be like $3500!!!! I also have to pay taxes on top of that. Because of this I am not going to be tipping any of my reception staff. They should expect that when they are making couples pay an 18% service fee that we won't be paying gratuity on top of that. I would like to, but we just can't afford it.

I think it is a TOTAL, ABSOLUTE and UTTER DISGRACE what people are expected to pay for a wedding. 1 hotel wanted £750.00 just to book the room BEFORE a reception would be considered - I have worked out I can feed my guests for LESS than this - get a dress - AND bridesmaid's dress - and friends and family willing to pay/use talents or skills. GETTING MARRIED is a MONEY MAKING RACKET - It's supposed to be for the two persons concerned - and NOT whether Aunt Aggie would have preferred Sirloin Steak over chicken!

we were able to negotiatie w/photog. since my daughter didn't want any pics of her getting dressed. This cut time off what the photog. whould usually spend at our house and he subtracted it from his total; he offered to use it for overtime if we ran into it. But we talked to him about it upfront. I wouldn't try it at the last minute but upfront might work.

We're buying a lot of those little extras we need at Wal-Mart, including our invitations we can print at home. They were only $20 for 50 of them, plus they have all kinds of themed decorations and a ton of things wouldn't think of. They also have everything for favors way cheap. It's nice stuff and an easy way to save a little money.

the service charge is a hoax in many restaurant and catering facilities. not only are they making an extreme profit, but they add extra fees for themselves. servers rarely get any gratuity and make minimal hourly wages. i have experience in a variety of upscale facilities in NYC as well as the East end of Long Island.

Seal N' Sends are a great way to save $...they require the typical postage and are minimalistic when it comes to conserving paper. Plus the response cards are postcards :)

ditto on the target invitations. i got mine there and they're so cute!

Target sells printable invitation packages, about $25 for 50 invitations, including envelopes and response cards. They come in a variety of colors and styles. This is a good money-saver on something people are likely to throw away.

It seems that most of this can be avoided by reading the contract. But, that means you need to actually READ it, not just sign off on anything they put in front of you. Don't be afraid to ask questions about things you don't understand, you're paying for it afterall!

I couldn't help but be a little annoyed by this. I don't really see many of these costs as "hidden" - if you are charged for it and it's in your contract, it shouldn't be a surprise if you read the contract before signing it. If it's not in your contract, don't jump to grab your checkbook when the bill arrives just because it's on your bill.

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